Tuesday, October 02, 2007

You can call me obnoxious. Really, you can.

Soooo.... That post I wrote Friday night (I think) about the line between proud mom and bragging. If you didn't see it, you really didn't miss anything. Well, anything good. It was obnoxious. I SO crossed the line. If you did see it, I really apologize. I was in a bad mood after an interaction with a friend who goes on and on about her kid, and I wrote the post in that frame of mind. It was never my intention to make anyone feel bad, or be hurtful in anyway, and when I read it over a few hours later I realized that it could. And that it was just generally out of line. So I deleted it, hoping that bloglines would not pick it up and I could just pretend that it never happened. But it did get picked up, and so now you all know my inner asshole. Hopefully you'll forgive me this time, I'll work on squashing her some more, and we can still be friends?

7 comments:

Eva said...

I didn't find it obnoxious at all. You were just being factual. I describe each and every milestone as it happens, perhaps some people find that obnoxious or bragging, but the point of my blog is to track these things for me and for S&J and for family. So I wouldn't feel bad at all. You SHOULD be a proud mama.

Em said...

I didn't find it obnoxious either. No need for apologies!

PiquantMolly said...

I thought it was fine, dear.

And I wanted to comment, actually. My (soon-to-be-ex) mother-in-law used to say, "Whenever I would hear other women bragging about their children, I would just smile to myself and know that mine were smarter."

Sounds cocky, but at least gives you some self-satisfaction.

Jenn said...

I actually went looking for it last night because I wanted to comment on it because I've been thinking about it since you posted it and basically still don't know the answer.

I generally try not to look at milestone charts or anything, more so I don't worry, but because if I don't know what they "should" be doing, I cater more to their actual abilities.

S said...

I didn't see the post so I can't comment on that, however in regards to being a proud mama vs. bragging there is a difference.
Proud mama means being excited about what your child is doing and wanting to share the "joy" of experiencing it.
Bragging is talking about how much the child is doing with an air of "look how much better my Kid is than yours." I've found that bragging tends to be a bit mean.

From everything I've read, you're not being mean/bragging when you tell us about what Ant is learning.

I've gone through these similar feelings more times than I care to admit.

Lori said...

I saw it but I don't think I left a comment (I often read but get pulled away by something or another). I didn't think it was obnoxious at all. It's okay to be a proud parent. Watching your kids hit milestones is incredibly exciting. How can you not want to share?

ovagirl said...

I didn't see it at all! But it's your blog afterall. And your little boy sounds very clever, love that story about him spotting the 'tat' when you couldn't.